Where To Meet Women

The quality of women on Facebook is amazing! Hot girls use and will always use these types of websites to network – socialize with their friends and keep in touch with their relatives. And they want to be approached!

But they want to be approached by the “right guy” – a guy with a strong and interesting personality. Hot girls are very picky – not only in normal life, but also online!

That’s why your profile is so important. The girl needs some information about you upfront – she doesn’t want to read all your messages to find out that you’re a computer programmer and your hobbies are Warcraft and Chess.

That means, having a cool profile isn’t enough – it’s only the beginning. Your way of communication is the key.

If you are able to arouse different emotions in the girl with your messages and convey that you are a man of “higher value” – she will want to date with you over all. The cool things is, that it’s not that difficult – you simply have to know what to say and when to say it!

Now, let me ask you a question: Do you feel comfortable being at home in front of your computer? You probably do. That’s why online dating is the answer:

1) There is no approach anxiety, no fear of rejection.
2) You don’t have to worry about jealous boyfriends, isolation, embarrassment etc.
3) No loud music, no smoke, no wasted time & money searching for girls.

Actually, by now, a lot of single women like to date online – they still go out, but they want to have fun with their friends and it’s not that easy to approach them in this case.

It’s a different story online – girls like to be approached online, because they feel safe at home and there are no commitments.

So, what’s the best site where you can meet single women? Actually, it’s not one of those online dating websites! It’s much harder to find quality women on online dating websites than on this completely free website:

The site I’m talking about is Facebook! In case you didn’t know – Facebook is the leading social networking site. It has more than 120 million active users worldwide (stand: 11.29.2008, MySpace has 118 million). And in opposite to MySpace, people of every age group are on Facebook – not only students and high schoolers. And it’s completely free!

Ballroom dancing has become the new “in” activity as of late. There’s been this preconceived notion for years that if a man was interested in dancing, he wasn’t interested in women. That’s all changed and both men and women are embracing the chance to learn this great art form. Many community centers and professional dance studios offer these classes in the evenings and on the weekends now. Sign up for one and you’ll not only improve your dancing, but you may meet a beautiful woman too.

Contrary to what a lot of men believe, women love sports. When you are thinking about where to meet beautiful women don’t discount the local sports field. If your team is playing, take a friend and instead of watching each and every play, see if you can find a cute woman to focus on. It’s easy to strike up a conversation based on what is happening on the field, the ice or the court. A great bonus is that you know right off the bat that she’s interested in sports.

The museum is another overlooked place where you can meet beautiful women. Many women love art and will visit the museum alone for an afternoon of relaxation. Brush up on the current showings so you can actually hold a conversation with a woman who piques your interest.

Many men have the same idea when it comes to where to meet beautiful women. They flock down to a local bar and nightclub hoping that it will be filled with available lovely ladies. Granted you can almost always find some really great women at a bar, but when you are there with a bunch of other single men, your competition is cut out for you. Consider trying a new approach when it comes to finding a great woman to date. There are many places to meet intelligent, attractive women that you haven’t thought of.

A bookstore is one of the best places to meet women. Many women have a fondness for reading and will visit the bookstore just to browse. It’s also easy to strike up a conversation in a bookstore. You can ask what she thinks of a certain book or you can ask if she has any recommendations based on the section she’s browsing in. Although you may not have thought of the bookstore in the past, when you are considering where to meet beautiful women, put it at the top of your list.

Cooking classes may not be a spot you think of when it comes to where to meet beautiful women, but surprisingly it is. Many singles take cooking classes as a way to improve their culinary prowess and also for the social aspect of it. Quite often the students are paired up, so if you see a woman who catches your eye, maneuver yourself so you are closer to her. Cooking can be great fun and sensual.

Through friends and family. In a “Sex in America” study, it was found that roughly two-thirds of the marrying couples met through mutual friends, coworkers, or family members. Never underestimate the value of using your friends, family, and even work acquaintances and classmates to find you a special someone. The best example I can think of is my good friend Rick, who met his wife through mutual friends. The two have been madly in love for 6 years and married for just over one year, and it’s still going great. Clearly there is value in using your “human resources” to find a girlfriend, or even wife.

Random places. As you know from my blog on Expectations, often the best relationships are created when you’re not looking. For example, on a night when I wasn’t even on the prowl, I met a girl I would date for two years while waiting for the NYC subway! And I met another girlfriend on a bus in Australia. You may only meet her for five minutes, but big things can happen from small moments. Life is crazy, so embrace the unpredictability of it all!

Besides this fact, girls LOVE to have a romantic story about how they met you. Believe me, they’d rather say that they met you in a one-in-a-million chance encounter in Paris than in a club, dancing to raunchy music. You have to appeal to their romantic sensibilities. Just look at all the Hollywood movies, like “Sleepless in Seattle”, where girls meet guys on the radio, on the Empire State Building, in places you generally WOULDN’T EXPECT TO MEET.

Think that’s not possible? Au contraire. There are LOTS of great places to meet girls that don’t involve shelling out $75 a night for drinks or $30 just to get into a club. I met my girlfriend of the last two years on a tour through Berlin, and I know another guy who met his wife in his economics class. In both cases, we guys didn’t EXPECT anything to happen, and that was key. Remember, when you’re not looking, that’s when girls tend to show up! Expect the unexpected.

At work. I ONLY recommend this if you are not in the same exact office together; you need some distance between you in case things go south. NEVER go for a girl who works 5 feet away from you; it will just create too many problems. My best friend’s messy relationship with an office mate proves this! But I dated a girl who worked in another department, and the break-up was fine; no messy office problems, no anxiety in the workplace. So if the attraction is there, right along with the distance, work offers a bounty of potential mates.

Evening Classes. Doesn’t get much easier than this. Social network? Check. You’re in the class, you get to know people, you’re all it in together. Something in common with the girl? Duh. Double check! Easy conversations—talk about the class, your dreams, what you’re doing here, etc. There are many other advantages, as well, but I think you can see how classes are a great way to find a girl. The best ones are those that only last 5-10 weeks—that way if you do go out with a classmate and things go sour, you won’t have to see her for long afterwards!

It’s a fundamental rule: Girls don’t want the everyday, the routine, the expected. They want the unexpected, the unlikely, the unbelievable. They want something special they can tell all their friends, and that’s why looking—or rather, NOT actively looking—outside the regular venues is a winning idea.

So what are some places I recommend for meeting the love of your life? Well, of course you can’t HAVE the attitude that you’re looking; just play it cool, and be patient. I recommend the following five places:

Abroad. While travelling solo can work, it’s even better to go on a tour. Instant access to lots of girls travelling alone (or with a friend), and wanting to find a man of their own. Tours are GREAT ways for meeting chicks. And no matter where you’re from, there are SO many benefits to going to a country carrying a foreign accent.

The supermarket. Same thing, boys! It’s a great place to meet a woman. Nesting mode factor works here too. A woman who is single, and cooking for herself, silently LONGS for a man to cook with, and for. It’s low defense mechanism territory too, we’re not nearly as guarded as we get in a club on a weekend night – it’s an easy time to approach, be friendly and make a date!

Online dating. Ok, everyone is FINALLY getting on board with this one. Online dating is becoming the MOST popular way to meet a man (or for you – a woman!) It is like being a little girl in a candy store…so many cute guys, so many good choices….I met MY boyfriend on line, and joining up on a slow and lonely Saturday night was the best decision I’ve made in a long time! If you are spending your weekends alone, guess what? You are only a few short mouse clicks away from turning it all around..:-)

Got a dog? Hey – why not borrow one if you don’t! The dog park is the absolute best “secret” spot to meet and hook up with a beautiful woman! A woman who loves her dog is in nesting mode….She’d rather be home with the pooch on a Friday night than out hitting the clubs with the lines, and the noise….She just needs a good guy to hang with. Hey – if you’re not a dog lover you probably don’t get it, but if you are – you know EXACTLY what I’m talking about and know that I’m right! Dog parks are a great place to get to know another person – and equally as important, you’ve got to make sure you’re puppies get along too – after all, you’re going to be double dating!

Where else can you find a place literally swarming with hundreds-no, thousands-of attractive, single women? The university! If you’re a student you get to meet a lot of people in your class, and walking around the campus in between classes. In addition to this, queer campus-wide clubs and groups can also provide lots of great resources. Simply sign up for a short course and you’re on your way. And of course, there’s always the convenience of meeting people through the internet. There are online dating sites that specifically cater to lesbians and bisexual women worldwide. It is not only an easy way to meet people, but can be done in the convenience of your own home, too.

Guys often say they don’t know where to meet someone, or the good ones are hard to find. Men have it tough, but single lesbians have it even tougher-especially if you don’t live in one of the major urban centers in the country. Finding someone to date or befriend can be challenging, since only 10-20 percent of the population are GLBT (Gay, lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender). Also, when one lives in a place where being GLBT is not that acceptable, it becomes somewhat impossible to meet someone. However, finding new love isn’t that hard, especially if one knows where to look.

Gay and lesbian communities are growing everyday-organizations and events tailored for the community are more frequent. Access to these communities may be done mostly through the internet. Numerous websites give information about different community centers, social/religious groups, sports events, etc in different areas of the country. Look for social organizations that best suit your interest, such as book clubs, singing groups, political organizations, etc. Striking up a conversation is easier, not only because of the sexual orientation, but also because of some shared common interests. The church is also an excellent place where one could meet other lesbians, even if it sounds a little old-fashioned.

There are gay-friendly churches where one can meet other gays and lesbians sharing the same faith. It is a great way to introduce you to the local community and meet other singles who may be looking for a potential partner, too. If joining a gay and lesbian community is a little too much for you (especially those who haven’t “come out” yet), or maybe there’s nobody there that interests you, there are still lots of ways to meet lesbians anywhere. Although it sounds stereotypical, a lot of lesbians really love sports, so consider joining a local sports team. Athletic women come in various shapes and sizes, and you can find them all at the local sports club.

However, keep in mind that not all athletic women are gay, so be super-cautious before making any move. Be sure to switch on your gaydar before you approach that somebody who caught your eye. Dogs are indeed man’s best friend-not only are they loyal and trustworthy-they can also provide a relaxed and casual way of meeting other women. Take Bruno for a walk in the nearby park and you’ll see a lot of women accessorized with their beribboned dogs. A lot of lesbians are dog lovers, and it goes for the straight folks too. Be careful before you pet somebody’s dog, though-you never know if it bites.